Be an active part of your loved ones’ support systems and check in with them often. If they show any warning signs for suicide, be direct and ask them if they are thinking of suicide. Ask about their self-care and safety plan to support them. If possible, be a part of their safety plan. Listen to their story and their feelings without offering advice or judgment.

Many attempt survivors report feeling guilt. You can help diminish their guilt. Let your loved one know that they have nothing to feel guilty about. Let them know that they are still loved and that they are an important part of your life. Spend time with them, affirm them, and show affection.

Talk openly with your loved one about their safety plan if they find themselves in crisis again. Let them know they can count on you to be with them if they’re struggling.

You have to help yourself in order to help others. Understand and acknowledge your own feelings about the trauma that you just experienced. Helping a loved one through a crisis is never easy. Seeking out your own support from your own safe people or a crisis counselor can be helpful. The 988 Lifeline is always here to talk or chat, both for crisis intervention and to support allies and family.